Do you want Peace, Just bow down to Allah!

Stop and think for a moment of the happiest time in your life. What made you so happy? Most (if not all of us) will likely remember a time when we were around people that we LOVE. Can you imagine being with Allah, spending time with Him and talking to Him was the happiest time in your life?

The only relationship where you will never have your heart broken is your relationship with Allah. The only one who will never abandon you is Allah. How can you search for happiness when it calls you five times a day?? Hold on to your prayers no matter how difficult life gets, because when you feel like there is no place to turn to or no one to seek help from, prayer will reinforce the belief in your heart that Allah is able to do all things – removing trials, pouring blessing upon you from places unknown, replacing a difficulty with multiple ease, mending issues of your heart and soul that were broken beyond repair, and ultimately rewarding you with Jannah for just having believed in Him- there is nothing a prayer can’t fix, so hold on to your Salah no matter what turns your life takes.

Start your day by talking to the Kings of the Heavens and the Earth, and see how your life transforms. The relationship with Allah is the best relationship you can ever have! But how do you do that?

The way to develop a relationship with Allah is through talking to Him and listening to Him. When you are in Salah you are actually talking to Him and when you are reading the Qur’an you are listening to His Words. Start with the prayer. Spend time reciting and understanding the Qur’an. When you read the Qur’an you will feel that Allah is telling you something, STOP and ponder over the meanings. Pray and ask Allah to show you true guidance and ask for His help and His love.

Don’t let your busy schedule in life stop you from missing your Salah or Delaying your Salah. Unfortunately some Muslims will line up at stores for hours for a good deal on a sale, but come late to Salah to get what money cannot buy. Hold on to your Salah! Do not leave it for ANYTHING!busy life makes prayer Harder but prayer makes a busy life easier.

If you treat your Salah as a CHORE, you will not enjoy it. Treat it as a CONVERSATION between you and Allah, and your perception should change. Why do you rush while you perform Salah? Isn’t the one you are standing in front of in control of whatever you are rushing for?

By earnestly performing the five daily prayers, we achieve the greatest of blessings: cleared off our sins and increase in rank with our Lord. Prayer is a potent remedy for our sickness, for it instills our faith in our souls. As for those that keep away from the mosque and away from prayer, for them is unhappiness, wretchedness and an embittered life.

Sujood is a position where you realize your own nothingness in front of His greatness. A humbling reminder that you not only submit to Him with your limbs in those fleeting seconds of your life, but that you also submit to Him in the strongest sense – His plan and Divine decree for you. That is the ultimate form of submission, which you submit with your Heart.

Life cannot become boring when we establish connection with the giver of Happiness. When we remember Allah by glorifying Him, being conscious of him and thanking Him, He remembers us by answering our prayers, protecting us and guiding us throughout our lives.  Scared? Pray. Over thinking? Pray. Losing hope? Pray. Worried? Pray. Struggling? Pray. Success is from Allah alone. So, go towards Allah and Allah will bring you closer to success. If you want guaranteed success, make every effort to please Allah.

“If Allah should aid you, no one can overcome you; but if He should forsake you, who is there that can aid you after Him? And upon Allah let the believers rely.” [Quran, 3:160]

Bint Shahul Hameed

#peace #contentment #salah #success #motivation

Divorce – what to avoid.. how to heal..

Here are some quick tips on how not be a jerk when hearing about someone’s divorce:

– If you are not their qualified marriage counselor or an attorney do not “assume” and start placing blame on either of the parties. Unless there was downright physical and emotional Abuse you know for a fact and were a witness to.
– Do not define the entire human and his or her entire achievements or character based on divorce.
– Realize that both parties are already hurting and your assumptions and hearsay can cause more harm and hurt to them. And as fellow Muslims that is haraam. Yep you read it right HARAAM.
– Qur’an clearly says that assumption is a sin. Stop assuming things based on your very limited knowledge.
– Say a good word or remain silent.
– Do not tell divorced people how they should feel or how they need to spread awareness based on their experience or how quickly they should heal. People who are divorced have every single right to not tell anyone. To heal at their own pace and to not turn a very vulnerable part of their life into an education session. They can decide to not speak about it at all and we all need to respect that.
– Mind your own freaking business. I honestly wish I could shake people and shout this in their ear drums. So many lives have been destroyed because so many of us fail to follow this little advice and a basic life skill. Don’t stick your nose where it doesn’t belong. It is a matter of two people who’ve grown a part, allow them to handle it. You’re denying both parties the opportunity to learn life lessons if you try to ‘fix’ the situation. Fix your own life first mate.
[I promise I am not a violent person, but the destruction interference in friendships or relations or marriage moves me a little on the edge]
– If children are involved the nonsense that comes out of your mouth will affect them. Honestly have some shame. control your curiosity and just shut up.
– If children are not involved do not say things like “thank Allah you two do not have kids” that is downright rude and is in noway on this Earth and not even in another parallel universe comforting. Ignorant statements like these cause more hurt.
– Realize Divorce is not a failure. In most cases it is the best thing that can happen to a couple. It is better to live single and happy and be better single parents than to be married and miserable and teach kids all sorts of wrong things about love, commitment and companionship.
– Divorce not only affects the individuals or kids involved but two entire families. Everyone is hurting respect that.
– Divorce suddenly seems to invite and attract well-meaning friends, relatives and bystanders, many who think they should offer advice on how to manage the divorce. And usually the advice surrounds around fear, suspicion and how to fight the other person.
Don’t be a jerk [keep repeating till it sinks in].
– Understand that people are totally capable of managing a divorce with grace and dignity. Not every divorce is ugly and bitter. There is not always drama involved. And even if drama is involved it is not your drama.
Repeat – Not my Circus and not my monkeys.
– Just because someone is a public figure you do not have the right to pass judgments or offer your unwanted opinions. This nonsense was uncontrollable when Sister Yasmin Mogahed shared about her separation. Every tom,dick and harry and seeta,geeta and meeta had an opinion about it. People who have never had one line conversations with Sister Yasmin were suddenly experts on her life and what she should have and she shouldn’t have done. Blimey what ultimate jokers.
– Our role models are our prophets and the people Allah has sworn by. I would like to share this little reminder by Ustadh Omar Suleiman

“I tell people this over and over again: don’t attach your faith to people. People will come and go. People will disappoint you. People will divulge dark secrets. People will turn out to be the opposite of what you thought.
Allah is perfect. His Messenger (peace be upon him) is a perfect example, and the religion is a perfect methodology. Attach yourself to the principles instead of the people. That way no Shaykh going wild or role model going rogue will be able to shake your faith.”
– Shaykh Omar Suleiman

Stop blaming public figures – they are humans. And humans are complex and fragile at the very same time.

– FACEBOOK AND SOCIAL MEDIA BULLYING – Bullying and harassing through Facebook is always a repercussion, and you could find yourself in deep troubles if you start slandering or defaming a person’s character. You may find yourself in a lot of fire if you make false accusations and assumptions. If not with people and not in this duniya then definitely in akhira with Allah and for eternity.
Fear Allah – Fear Allah seriously!

HOW YOU CAN HELP – YOU ASK?

– Pay for their counselling – healing takes a lot of effort..
– Send weekly meals.
– Offer to clean their home and workspace.
– Send them gifts it is sunnah and builds love and friendships.
– Gift them a spa day and offer to babysit their children.
– Do not bring up their ex or discuss about the divorce infront of kids. You can listen and support without getting caught up in the drama. Help reduce drama, not increase it. You can do it, I believe in you.
– Set horizons and boundaries on when you can talk about the divorce and when you can talk about just fun and future. And listen to the party that is hurting and do not force yourself or your help on them.
– Let them know it is okay to take time to heal and that you will always be around to lend a shoulder and to listen.

THE VERY BEST THING YOU CAN DO 🙂
Make dua! ❤
Make dua in sujood and in tahajjud for the humans that are hurting.
Dua heals everyone. Remember we are all on the same journey towards our lord. We are all walking each other home – OUR REAL HOME JANNAH. Do not undermine the weight of what comes out of your mouth or what you type with your fingers.

Allah has Better Plans..

We can trust that when things don’t work out the way we want, Allah has something better planned.

You may not end up where you thought you’d be, but you will always end up where you’re meant to be right where Allah intended you to be all along!

If Allah has put you in a difficult situation in this world, its a chance to earn ease in the hereafter through patience.

Whatever you lost through fate, be certain that it saved you from pain. Whatever you lost through the stroke of destiny, know it was to save you from adversity. One small affliction keeps off greater afflictions; one small loss prevents greater losses.

Have faith, do not lose hope, wait patiently. He indeed will create a way to deliver you from your hardships. Persevere, have faith in His benevolence. Through afflictions Allah only tests your faith; He is completely aware of your condition. Have patience and wait for the divine decree.

Do not lose hope in adversity and complain that God singled you out for punishment, remitting others guilty of worse sins. Your present state could very well be His intent to elevate your spiritual station; or He could just be testing your faith. Everyday that you persevere, you grow closer to perfection. Thus your present despair may be beginning of an infinite blessing.

Whenever Allah gives a blessing to a servant, and then takes it away from him, and the servant patiently endures his loss, then He rewards him with a blessing which is better than the one He took away.

When Allah tests you it is never to destroy you. When He removes something in your possession it is only in order to empty your hands for an even greater gift!.” -Ibn al-Qayyim

Allaah says: “And whoever has Taqwaa of Allaah, He will make a way out for him (from hardship), and He will provide for Him from places He never imagined.” [Surah At-Talaaq: 2-3]

No matter how much you’re going through or how much hope you lost and how confused you were in what to do. Allah (SWT) was the one who took you out of that situation or he will after he tests your patience and faith in him or maybe he just wants to take something away from you to replace it with something better.

Allah knows best. He knows whats best for you, it may not seem like it but the pieces of the puzzle connect at the end. Always have faith in Allah because he only can do anything, everything is possible to him. Pray to him everyday, repent everyday, and make sure you thank him everyday also. Imagine waking up tomorrow with just what you thanked Allah for today?

Alhamdulillah for everything. SubhanAllah how the creator can change your life in just a day

When we face difficulties or we lose something, and we make Dua to Allah and have patience, inshā’Allāh, whatever we have lost, Allāh (subḥānahu wa ta’āla) will compensate us in this world and the next with that which is abundantly better. When we experience that blessing we will thank Allāh (subḥānahu wa ta’āla) for taking us through that test and we will understand that we were never abandoned, our du‘ā’’s were heard (every single one of them) and Allāh (subḥānahu wa ta’āla) was always in control of our affairs.

Sometimes consciously going back to our Creator requires a little push, because it’s not always easy. After all, insaan by our very nature, are very forgetful, and what better way to guide us home than to teach us a few things about ourselves along the way?
Alhamdulillah for the trials that bring with them Mercy & Guidance.
Alhamdulillah for everything that guides us back to Allah.

Everyone’s rizq is fixed ~

A brother moved to Makkah many years ago. He was a high flying manager of major departmental stores in U.K., Malaysia and China. He had been brought in by Bin Dawood stores as a regional manager for the Makkah region. He was from England.

After living and working in Saudi for some time, he later narrated how he found it so strange, unique and uplifting in how business was done in Saudi. Here were the examples he gave:

1. In Makkah, next to a major Bin Dawood superstore a rival new company were entering the kingdom and decided to open a mega store right next to Bin Dawood, within metres. The brother was perturbed, “Why can’t they open just somewhere else.”The owners of Bin Dawood frowned on his outlook. They ordered him to send his workers to the other store being setup and offer them tea and food and any help they needed to setup! The brother was left astounded. The Bin Dawood management simply replied, “Our rizq is fixed, they cannot take even a single riyal from what has been decreed upon us. So why not gain ajr and help them.”

2. The owner of alFakieh poultry in Saudi, he has a famous mosque in MAKKAH (Masjid Faqih). He is very rich ماشاء الله تبارك الله and religious. He found out that his major rival AlWatania was floundering with huge debts of a million plus riyals. So he one day sent a cheque to the owner of AlWatania and said, “Pay off your debt, and pay me back, whenever you can.” He had the opportunity to become the sole major distributor of chicken but instead he decided to help his main rival.

ماشاء الله تبارك الله

I personally feel we have been affected growing up in the west with the capitalistic and consumer mindset that is in every part of our lives. It removes Tawakkul and the muhabbah of brotherhood from our hearts. Just some advice. Don’t worry about others, if you do your work with Ihsan and Allah gives you tawfeeq then you will never have your success limited by others.

Become a well wisher.