Prepare your pre-Ramadan M.G.D list!

Assalamu’alaikum,

What is it – that if you get done BEFORE Ramadan – would make your Ramadan easier to handle?

Perhaps it’s that work project that you want to wrap up before Ramadan so you’re not stressed about it during Ramadan. Or maybe it’s preparing your home for Ramadan so you’re not worried about that when Ramadan begins. Or perhaps it’s finishing all the Eid shopping before Ramadan, so in the last 10 nights of Ramadan – you’re not hitting the malls!

How to setup your Pre-Ramadan M.G.D List

M.G.D stands for Must Get Done – and it’s a list of things that you want to get done before Ramadan to make your Ramadan run smoothly and you’re not stressed out about the little things that take away from the spirit of Ramadan.

To setup your personal pre-Ramadan M.G.D list, here’s what to do:

  1. Take a stock of everything you need to get done in various areas of your life (Spiritual, Work/School, Community, Family, Home, etc). Just dump everything on a piece of paper and don’t worry about ordering them or categorising them. The idea is just to capture them all.
  2. For every to-do you have on that list, ask yourself the following questions:
    1. Can I delete it? e.g. Do I really need to attend that conference in June? or can I cancel it? Do I really need to re-model my kitchen this summer? or can that wait?
    2. Can I defer it? e.g. Do I HAVE to finish this project at work before/during Ramadan, or can it wait till after Ramadan? Do I HAVE to plan my December vacation now, or can it wait? Do I need to do this extra semester now or can I defer?
    3. Can I delegate it? e.g. Can I hire someone to deep clean my house for one day so my house is ready for Ramadan/Eid instead of doing it myself? Can I hire someone to help me with preparing Eid gifts from now?
  3. Anything that does not pass the above three questions – goes into your M.G.D list.
  4. Now, it’s time to get specific and plan exactly when you’ll get certain things done from your M.G.D list, e.g.
    1. When will I get my dua list ready?
    2. When will I get my Eid shopping done for my children?
    3. When wil I get Eid Gifts for family/friends?
    4. When will I complete this project at work so it doesn’t run into Ramadan?
    5. When will I plan this community project I wanted to do in Ramadan so I hit the ground running in Ramadan.
    6. My car needs urgent service – when can I book it for service.
  5. Involve your family: This list is best prepared in a family setting with your spouse/children/parents so everyone is involved, but can also be prepared alone if you’re single or the only revert in your family.

Hope the above is clear.

The idea is to think through and anticipate what can be done before Ramadan and get it out of the way so you’re not stressed before/during Ramadan with errands/tasks you wished you got done before.

Source : ProductiveMuslim

 

Some moments of sadness will come to an end quickly, whilst other moments will be long lasting. In those very moments, you may find that a sense of despair overcomes you, a darkness may hover over you and make you feel as though such a moment will not end, ever. But this feeling is so wrong, it is so incorrect and so very baseless.

Take a look back to the last time you felt hurt or sad, not the kind of sadness that comes and goes on a daily basis, but rather the deep rooted kind which settles in the heart and tugs at the core. The kind which makes you feel completely torn. Now, if you look back at such a feeling and the intensity of the sadness experienced, then compare it to the weeks or maybe months which followed, didn’t the pain decrease? Didn’t it sieve through until it became lighter or even weaker?

Such are our emotions. Every passing day is a sieve which sieves our emotions. Our most intense moment of happiness with the passing of days becomes a mere figment of our memory. Likewise our most severe sadness with passing days become mere lessons.

But the one key thing to remember is that no matter how much it hurts, you will only get through it if you hold on to Allah. If you depend on others or material items to expel your pain, you will find yourself falling deeper and deeper in to the pain. However the moment you acknowledge that this is your chance to get closer to Allah, to reconnect with Him, you will already find yourself halfway there to recovery. And when you recover, when your wounds heal and your soul is once again at ease because of a better reward which Allah presents you with, you will truly taste the sweetness of tears which once tasted nothing but bitter.

May Allah swiftly lift your pains and replace them with peace. آمين. 🌹