Extinguish  the fire  of  enmity  before it spreads

 

Throughout my life, I found that whenever I defended myself against defamatory comments, loss and regret were the main results. At first I would think it wise that I should set things straight when some person criticized me, regardless of whether the criticism was verbal or written. In the end, however, I found the opposite to be true. By defending myself, more enmity resulted , and instead of the restoration of good ties between my critic and myself, he would attempt to malign me even further. Eventually I would wish that I had never confronted hitn in the first place. It would have been better to forgive, forbear, show patience, turn away, and ignore the defamatory remarks. After all, this is what the Qur ‘an teaches us:

Show forgiveness,  enjoin  what is good, fooli sh  [i.e.  don’t punish   them}.

Let them pardon  and forgive. and  turn away from   the (Qur an 7: 199) (Qur ‘an 24:  22)

Those who repress anger, and who pardon men... (Qur ‘an 3: 134) And  when they are angry, they forgive )       (Qur ‘an 42: 3 7) And when the foolish address them [with bad words} they rep(v back with mild  words of gentleness)                       (Qur an 25: 63) Repel [the evil} with one which is better [i.e. Allah ordered the faithful believers to be patient at the time of anger, and to excuse those who treat them badly}, then verily! H e, between whom and yo u there was enmity, [will become} as though he was a close friend)

(Qur ‘an 41: 34)

Therefore, if you hear malicious words from someone, do not answer back:  it will only result in multiplying one attack into ten.

Excerpt from ” Dont be Sad”

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