Self Evaluation Guide – SECTION TWO

SECTION TWO: Your Family

-when did you last thank Allah for your family?

-is your relationship with your family for the pleasure of Allah?

-have you understood your responsibility as a Muslim to your family?

-do you know your duties as a father/mother, husband/wife, brother/sister, son/daughter?

-do you know your rights as a father/mother, husband/wife brother/sister, son/daughter?

How is your relationship with your parents?

-(if living together), do you have meaningful conversation with them daily?

-have you developed any grudges that have to be cleared away?

-have you forgiven them for any hurt they may have caused you?

-have you sought their forgiveness for mistakes you have made that hurt them?

-is your behavior towards them as respectful as possible?

-have you said “uff” to them or reacted angrily towards them?

-in the last year, what five things have you done to bring them closer to Allah?

-how have you served your parents?

-(if they live far away) have you called and visited them regularly?

-have you given them gifts on Eid and tried to get together with them?

-if they have passed away, when did you pray for them?

-have you done any charity lately for their sake?

How is your relationship with your spouse?

-do you engage in meaningful conversation with each other daily?

-have you learned about Islam together by attending a regular Islamic activity?

-how have you tried to make Islam part of your lives as a couple and family?

-do you feel you have built an Islamic household together?

-has there been verbal, emotional or physical abuse in the relationship? If so, why and what can be done about it?

-is there a silent grudge that needs to be discussed and cleared away?

-have you forgiven each other and sought forgiveness from each other for past mistakes?

-how often have you spent leisure time alone together in the past year?

-has your Iman (faith) in Allah and Islam grown through your relationship this past year?

-how would you feel about your relationship if you are in your spouse’s place?

How is your relationship with your children?

-what five things have you done to bring them kids closer to Allah?

-how much have you invested in their Islamic education, both financially and in terms of your time?

-on a scale of one to five, with five being the highest, how well do you think you know your children?

-what is going on in their lives in school, extracurricular activities, social activities, etc.?

-do you know who their friends are?

-do you talk to them on a daily basis in any meaningful way?

-do you spend leisure time with them?

-how many fun activities have you engaged in with them over the year?

-have you helped introduce them to good Muslim kids their age that they can be friends with?

-has there been verbal, emotional or physical abuse in the relationship? If so, why and what can be done about it?

-have you sought their forgiveness for mistakes you have made that hurt them?

-have you been a living example of Islam to them?

-how can you spend more time with them?

-do you know what kind of environment they are growing up in?

-do you know what their favorite television shows, writers, video games, toys etc. are?

-how many Friday Salat have they prayed in the Masjid?

-how often do you take them to the Masjid?

-how often do you take them to Islamic activities (i.e. dinners, camps, conferences, seminars, etc.)?

-what do you think they think about you?

-are they likely to talk to you or would they prefer to talk to your spouse when they need to?

How is your relationship with relatives (i.e. brothers and sisters, etc.)

-how often do you contact them?

-did you send them Eid cards/gifts or at least call on Eid?

-do you visit each other at least once a year (if you’re not living close by)

-are there any grudges that need to be cleared up?

-have you forgiven them for any past hurts and errors?

-have you sought their forgiveness for mistakes you have made that hurt them?

-have you tried to bring them closer to Allah?

-have you helped them with Halal needs (i.e. financial help)?

-do your children know your brothers and sisters?

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